people judge these things very bad, they think we are very superficial and stupid persons for do a so risky cosmetic surgery.
Are you afraid that your future girlfriend could discover that you did CLL?
I'm not worried about this in the slightest. It's a different version of being judged...we're either dismissed for being too short, or for doing LL. If a woman rejects me for having done LL, she doesn't accept part of my "story." Eff that.
music maker: it takes just 1 person to see your scars and to start talking. or 1 angry boyfriend.
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I would just say I had corrective surgery.
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if people look down on you for having surgery, they were always going to look down on you the first chance they get, they would be the kind of person who looks for a reason to look down on people to artificially elevate their own status. I don't care what they think because they with this mental demeanor will never amount to anything in life because they will never focus on lifting themselves up, they will only try to knock others down.
no, my worry, is in the people this person talks to, because a lot of people are mindless drones who follow crowd mentality, they are easily manipulated into being opinionated to severe degrees, this person who tears others down only needs to persuade a small group of people in your social network to cause havoc to your reputation.
i really think that the best way is to not admit you have done this surgery, but for people who do 10cm or more the old photos could be a problem, because if some one see them there is a huge diference.
My biggest concern is actually keeping this a secret in the sense that, when I'm in a long-term relationship, I don't like keeping secrets. For dating/hooking up, those girls don't need to know. My ideal scenario would be to tell a girl I'm about to get serious with, and have her be ok with it...but then I worry, at that point (probably a few months or so in), she may freak out and then I've lost the relationship (and the time invested in it). So maybe I'll just keep it to myself. Guess my jury's still out on this one...
Quote from: YellowSpike on March 11, 2015, 10:39:25 PMMy biggest concern is actually keeping this a secret in the sense that, when I'm in a long-term relationship, I don't like keeping secrets. For dating/hooking up, those girls don't need to know. My ideal scenario would be to tell a girl I'm about to get serious with, and have her be ok with it...but then I worry, at that point (probably a few months or so in), she may freak out and then I've lost the relationship (and the time invested in it). So maybe I'll just keep it to myself. Guess my jury's still out on this one...
Have you told anybody YellowSpike?
Quote from: Blackhawk on March 11, 2015, 10:44:48 PMHave you told anybody YellowSpike?
Only a few very close friends and my family know about the surgery.
I want to think that I wouldn't care if a girl rejected me for having done the surgery, but I'm not sure. I'm leaning towards not saying anything to a future girlfriend/wife.
Quote from: YellowSpike on March 11, 2015, 10:52:36 PMOnly a few very close friends and my family know about the surgery.
I want to think that I wouldn't care if a girl rejected me for having done the surgery, but I'm not sure. I'm leaning towards not saying anything to a future girlfriend/wife.
Do you fear your friends and family will tell anyone?
Quote from: Blackhawk on March 11, 2015, 11:00:39 PMDo you fear your friends and family will tell anyone?
It's funny you mention that. A few already have opened their mouths (well, one person did to someone I didn't want to know). But honestly, I don't really care. The change is pretty obvious, and I feel like other people would eventually find out when they saw me. If people give me sh*t for having done the surgery (especially the ones who are average/tall), I have no problem cutting them out of my life. Quality > Quantity.
Quote from: YellowSpike on March 11, 2015, 10:39:25 PMMy biggest concern is actually keeping this a secret in the sense that, when I'm in a long-term relationship, I don't like keeping secrets. For dating/hooking up, those girls don't need to know. My ideal scenario would be to tell a girl I'm about to get serious with, and have her be ok with it...but then I worry, at that point (probably a few months or so in), she may freak out and then I've lost the relationship (and the time invested in it). So maybe I'll just keep it to myself. Guess my jury's still out on this one...
i agree with you, i really dont like to have secrets in serious relationships, but from my experience is better to hide it, is posible that the person freak out if she knows, and if you broke with her she could tell people about your LL .
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