I hope you will do better after rod removal.
Would you still get this surgery if you were couple(3-4) cms taller?Like 170-171.And of course im including your wealth.
Hey DIFM, Wanna thank you so much for all of your updates. I read every post of yours, learned so much, and appreciate the time you're taking to help the rest of us
Quote from: Tiger5 on February 29, 2016, 11:06:54 PMHey DIFM, Wanna thank you so much for all of your updates. I read every post of yours, learned so much, and appreciate the time you're taking to help the rest of us
You're welcome. Another update is that there actually is signs of bruising in that TFL area now. I didn't notice it at first, because my nail scars are darker than the bruise and distracted my eyes. But now that I look carefully at it, my TFL really is bruised. It's probably because I kept poking at it to see where the pain was coming from. Hopefully the bruise will heal and I'll be back to normal.
Quote from: Peaceout on February 28, 2016, 09:52:56 PMI hope you will do better after rod removal.
Would you still get this surgery if you were couple(3-4) cms taller?Like 170-171.And of course im including your wealth.
170-171 is still short. If I were in the same position that I was in before where I thought that I'd be running and back to normal after 6 months, I'd probably still get LL. But now that I have no idea when I'll run again or if this pain in my left TFL will ever go away, I'm not very sure. My guess is that at the rate that I'm recovering, I should be back to normal after one year post-op or 4 more months from today.
However, had I known that my long term girlfriend would break up with me over this surgery, I probably wouldn't have done it. Had I known that I'd be missing out on some critical events in my life because of my lack of ability to walk, I probably wouldn't have done it.
However, if this surgery leads me to meeting my future wife. Perhaps she's 5'8" and taller than my old self, then maybe LL was worth it. Because maybe if I didn't get this surgery, then she wouldn't have dated me, etc. etc.
So I don't know. There's a lot of "what ifs" and gambles here. There are pros and cons to either side. Right now, it's too early for me to say whether I screwed myself over or I created an opportunity for myself to live a better life.
Right now, none of that matters and it's not worth thinking about, because I already did the surgery. What I can say definitively is that I'm glad that I'm not short anymore. That was bugging the heck out of me. My height neurosis has been gone for quite a long time, and it's a huge burden off my shoulders. I wish every short person could get LL if LL didn't have so many potential downsides. I understand your pain. I really do.
Hi Doingitforme,
Nice diary, i have been following it since its beginning. I think you raised an incredibly interesting point in your last comment and something that i imagine all LL'ers will think about at some time. How will you be so sure that the next woman you find would have loved you at your pre-LL life and height? When you ask her if she would have dated you, she will of course say that she would and that height is lower on her priorities, but how will you be dealing with that life long question of whether the woman that you're with or married to would have dated you without LL?
It's something i worry about a lot for some weird reason. I have it in my brain that i will marry a woman before my LL so that when i "become hot," it is with the girl who was with me while i was "flawed." You mentioned a 5'8" woman who could perhaps guarantee you children with avg to above avg height. Will you trust her when you know how hard it is to create meaningful and deep attraction at your pre-ll height? Won't every relationship moving forward have that problem of never knowing if your current wife or girl would have loved you the same pre-ll versus post-ll? Just wondering, thanks man.
After you get LL it shouldn't matter if the girl would have loved you at your pre-LL height. It's not like you're going to shrink back to your old height anytime soon.
Here is another different question from me,i know you like my questions. 
Since i dont know what it is like to be a rich person i will ask you this 
So you know what it is to be like a normal guy(i can remember you mentioned before, that you were 9-5 office worker years ago.)and a very rich guy.Would you rather to be a tall(talking about 5'10-5'11) 9-5 office worker(imagine you will never be wealthy with this job) or to be a short millionaire..?
Quote from: Arche on March 01, 2016, 03:50:44 AMIt's something i worry about a lot for some weird reason. I have it in my brain that i will marry a woman before my LL so that when i "become hot," it is with the girl who was with me while i was "flawed." You mentioned a 5'8" woman who could perhaps guarantee you children with avg to above avg height. Will you trust her when you know how hard it is to create meaningful and deep attraction at your pre-ll height? Won't every relationship moving forward have that problem of never knowing if your current wife or girl would have loved you the same pre-ll versus post-ll? Just wondering, thanks man.
On the flip side, if you fell in love with someone and you found she used to be 50lbs overweight, would you have loved her pre weight-loss?
Quote from: Peaceout on March 04, 2016, 05:08:02 PMHere is another different question from me,i know you like my questions.
Since i dont know what it is like to be a rich person i will ask you this
So you know what it is to be like a normal guy(i can remember you mentioned before, that you were 9-5 office worker years ago.)and a very rich guy.Would you rather to be a tall(talking about 5'10-5'11) 9-5 office worker(imagine you will never be wealthy with this job) or to be a short millionaire..?
Short millionaire for sure.
1) People like successful guys even if they're short. I'd name a few famous short celebrities who are well respected, but you probably already know them. Once you become rich enough, things like age, looks and height stop mattering. Look at Hugh Heffner. The guy marries women who are more than half his age.
2) It sucks to work with alarm clocks and deadlines. What I love most about my life is that I get to do whatever I want, whenever I want. There's no part of my day where I'm doing something I don't want to do. I guess if you love your 9-5 job and really want to be there all the time, then it wouldn't matter. But for me, I enjoy being able to go on vacations whenever I feel like it. If I get bored of doing my work, I can just close the laptop and then do something else. Even though I know I'll lose money by not doing the work earlier, I don't care.
3) Being able to help strangers and friends and family is a great feeling. Every once in a while, people in my life are really sad because of some money-related issue. For example, one of my friends got a traffic ticket and was really upset about it. I paid for it, and then he was really happy again. Now imagine doing this for thousands of people.
Quote from: Nightwish on March 04, 2016, 05:26:19 PMOn the flip side, if you fell in love with someone and you found she used to be 50lbs overweight, would you have loved her pre weight-loss?
When you truly love someone, physical attributes stop being important. Otherwise, when the wife becomes old, does that mean every husband stops loving their wife? The way I view love is like the way I view my love for my puppy. He's all cute and playful when I first met him. But now he's grow old and slow. But I still love him. I don't care how he looks. I just like spending time with him.
Quote from: DoingItForMe on March 04, 2016, 09:45:44 PMWhen you truly love someone, physical attributes stop being important. Otherwise, when the wife becomes old, does that mean every husband stops loving their wife? The way I view love is like the way I view my love for my puppy. He's all cute and playful when I first met him. But now he's grow old and slow. But I still love him. I don't care how he looks. I just like spending time with him.
Do you feel that women and men love differently?
I came across sites like reddit,red pill , mgtow talking about a women's hypergamy instinct.
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