Femurs too long - advice needed

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Quote from: Nestor on February 01, 2020, 01:06:20 PMAfter being obsessed with reaching my new height goal I totally missed something very obvious, my femurs are now much longer than my tibias which is a problem as I am keeping this procedure a secret from my family and friends, I'm pretty sure they will notice the difference right away when I sit down.

No, they won't. NO ONE keeps tab on other's people proportions. Stop obsessing about this and enjoy your new height.
I did 10cm years ago and almost NO ONE noticed the height (only a tall female friend noticed) and NO ONE noticed the proportions. The comments I got were about how I looked "stronger" and "thinner" (people don't know that you can get a surgery to get taller, so they assume you're different for some other reason).

And if you were less than 170cm to begin with, you probably had short femurs before and now they look more normal (that was the case for me).

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Quote from: BetzLandLiberator on February 01, 2020, 04:25:35 PMNo, they won't. NO ONE keeps tab on other's people proportions. Stop obsessing about this and enjoy your new height.
I did 10cm years ago and almost NO ONE noticed the height (only a tall female friend noticed) and NO ONE noticed the proportions. The comments I got were about how I looked "stronger" and "thinner" (people don't know that you can get a surgery to get taller, so they assume you're different for some other reason).

And if you were less than 170cm to begin with, you probably had short femurs before and now they look more normal (that was the case for me).

100% agree with this.

A book that really helped me manage my neurosis and obsession with little details was 'Meditations' by Marcus Aurelius - a classic book on stoicism which I'd highly recommend to anyone dealing with over anxiety. The book taught me about how insignificant I am in the grand scheme of things. We are born, we live, then we die....and the world simply moves on without you. For the average person, people will probably forget that we ever existed 100 years from now. We obsess and critique ourselves when in reality most people really don't care about us. Our ego inflates our image of ourselves and that manifests into worrying about small details and what other people think or say. Life is too short and precious to spend it worrying about what other people say or think about you. 6 CM gain in height is amazing, you worked hard for it, you earned it, you deserve to enjoy it....don't let a femur/tibia ratio distort that enjoyment, you are trading in one form of body dysphoria for another and you'll probably have a new body dysphoria after that unless you directly address the mental neurosis issue.   

The funny thing is I found this book while I was in the actual process of going through LL but nonetheless is has helped me deal with my neurosis and ego. Ultimately I did LL for myself, not for anyone else, and I'm so happy I did, but I do find myself worrying about how others view me at times which distracts me from my purpose and living life with meaning, so I'd highly recommend Meditations if you have time for a quick read...really helps with body dysmorphia.

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@Betz Thanks for the advice. Unfortunately my femurs were longer than my tibias to begin with hence them being even more noticeable now after lengthening. I do agree with you, most people don't notice or even care about these things but my own situation is a little bit different, I have one or two friends who would definitely notice the length difference, and that would just open a can of worms for me.

@Alchemist  Thanks for the suggestion, I haven't read Meditations but I read a book about stoicism called The Obstacle is the Way in which it's mentioned. We do obsess over things that don't matter, although its tough sometimes not too 

I really appreciate all the feedback and advice. I'm on the fence about what to do. Everyone has their own reasons for doing this procedure, for me keeping it private is as important as the height gain itself. I would probably be willing to sacrifice 1cm if it might help in keeping things below the radar in terms of people getting suspicious. My only real worry is the possibility of causing some sort of nerve damage or whatever like I mentioned and although my doc says it won't I'm still a bit nervous about it as you never know with these things.

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instead of shortening femur i would lengthen tibia.

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Someone correct me if i am wrong, but i think going backwards with the device is sometimes used to help out the new bone growth. To speed up it if there is problems. I think i read this some years ago, but correct me if i am wrong.

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Quote from: ShortArm on February 01, 2020, 10:59:24 PMSomeone correct me if i am wrong, but i think going backwards with the device is sometimes used to help out the new bone growth. To speed up it if there is problems. I think i read this some years ago, but correct me if i am wrong.

Exactly. That is why there is Nothing to worry about technically.
I just dont get why he does not have the „I dont give a f***“ attitude.
Worst case: Someone notices and calls you out. You say „no youre wrong“.
They insist, you insist that nothing changed. Thats it.

I am looking forward to that  conversation with my friends actually. It is my life. I do the fk I want with my Body...

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Quote from: ShortArm on February 01, 2020, 10:59:24 PMSomeone correct me if i am wrong, but i think going backwards with the device is sometimes used to help out the new bone growth. To speed up it if there is problems. I think i read this some years ago, but correct me if i am wrong.

You're not wrong.  Several patients in Beijing did this due to poor bone growth and/or contracture.

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I fully understand how OP feels;  I felt the same way after my femur lengthening.  However, I think it's really only obvious when you're wearing little or no clothing -- when you're in pants, jeans, .etc it's hard to tell.

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5.7 is quite tall so I think 6 cm is not really much for the original femurs
I think, if you are really willing to spend some more money, better to spend that extra to lengthen tibias instead of shortening femurs
But I don’t recommend to do tibia with Giotikas...

Anyways it’s better to clarify femur tibia ratio for future reference
Not just proportions but for the sake of health issues which may arise in the future

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Honestly man, you can easily dodge by saying that you started doing yoga, working on your posture or you went to see a phisio to fix your deviated pelvic. So many excuses man.