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It's funny that even though I know what it's like to be short, I can't help but feel somehow "superior" over shorter people at work (unless they're in a higher role than me, but I haven't actually met a manager shorter than me yet). So yes, the heightism bias turns out to be real in me, a rational software engineer, in one of the most "rational" of all places (Silicon Valley), who also used to be short!
When I meet a peer who's shorter, I have a tiny bit of trouble taking him seriously, unless I'm already impressed by his reputation. Seeing eye to eye with other men feels good. This may be a coincidence, or the result of having worked in my job for several years, but I've also just led a large project for the first time, and was assigned to lead another large one.
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Thats abit of a questionable way of thinking from someone who should know better considering they used to be 5'5. If you feel that way does this mean someone 5'10 can feel superior to you ?
Quadrilateral lengthening @ the Paley Institute - tibias 4cm + femurs 6cm
I agree with 4cm.
Although I appreciate your honesty as we all aren't angels and don't treat others perfectly all the time, you should at least overthink your thinking pattern in this matter.
Even though I was only 1,60m people who got to know me in school or university always treated me with respect. I was either elected as school's president by the majority of my whole school or was told how smart I seem by people who were taller than me later at university.
The size of a person shouldn't change the way you treat him/her. That person might be more succesful in certain areas of life than you. In the end you indeed might not be equals, maybe he/she is a better human.
Lol he is being honest with you guys and you want him to change the unconscious way he thinks? I appreciate the honesty OYG, and I do see how you can feel that way. The same way a fat->skinny person will still subconsciously judge someone who is fat (of having poor judgement or just being lazy) even though they were once fat. The brain is silly that way.
I also appreciate his honesty and is sure that he would have stopped to think how they looked at him and there is his thought. That then he reconsiders about it ...
I have a question OYG do you think that if you had not done the internal tibias, right now you would have pain in the knee?
I am planting to make 5cm in femur with Stryde
Quote from: CaptainAmerica on December 03, 2018, 12:22:35 AMLol he is being honest with you guys and you want him to change the unconscious way he thinks? I appreciate the honesty OYG, and I do see how you can feel that way. The same way a fat->skinny person will still subconsciously judge someone who is fat (of having poor judgement or just being lazy) even though they were once fat. The brain is silly that way.
Well let me be the one to say that he can feel that way but thats as far as it goes, I can talk about my own experience fighting or you can go watch some ufc, tall guys get their asses kicked all the time. In cases of superiority the only time you can say who is superior over who is in the fight game. Look up a fight between mark hunt vs stefan struve.
Or even look up daniel cormier vs stipe miocic, floyd mayweather vs diego corales, matt sera vs gsp, manny pacquiao vs antonio margarito the list goes on for days
He can feel that but its only his own feeling, that comment hit a nerve with me because i grew up in the fighting arts and when novice tall people used to think they were somehow better than me a big part of me would love to put them in their place. I have seen tall guys not able to defend their gf's against attackers aswell.
Look when he said he cant take people shorter than him seriously ! ..........now that was what i thought was somthing he should be corrected on.
How are you sir? I hope you must be enjoying your height and moved on.
How are the things going on since your last update? Did the pain on right knee subside and can you run now?
It would be very helpful if u could manage to update either here or in your blog.
Best of luck.
How are you doing, OYG?
April 2019 update - one year after the femur surgery
It's been a year after my surgeries. Life is very different from me now. I quit my job in Silicon Valley and I'm traveling the world, working on my startup and visiting new places. My legs are weaker and I'm less able than others to enjoy certain activities (e.g. rappelling down waterfalls), but I can function pretty much as well as before in life/society, since I didn't use to do many things that required leg strength or agility (dancing, martial arts, basketball). I haven't started dating again, so I can't comment on how women perceive me.
Walking is pretty normal. Nobody seems to notice anything unusual.
I can jog but for 2 minutes max; can't really run, except on sand (see my Instagram).
Can do 40 jumping jacks or more. Haven't tried more yet. I was surprised to see I could do those.
The pain in the right knee is still there when squatting or going down stairs, esp. if the stairs are tall. Dr. Paley said not to do deep squats, but do leg presses until the knee pain disappears. I don't know when and if that will happen - so keep in mind that even with the best doctors, there can still be complications, especially if you're older. The left knee has no problems whatsoever - so my right knee pain isn't because I haven't trained properly - I assure you that I trained both knees equally. 
Dr. Paley did acknowledge a risk of permanent knee pain after the tibia surgery:
QuoteVery little if any knee pin[sic] in our patients with CLL after tibial lengthening. I think it has to do with the minimally invasive we[sic] we insert the rod and avoid damage or irritation to the patellar tendon.
Dr. Robbins (Dr. Paley's colleague) told me that removing the rods won't improve the knee situation, and recommended a knee specialist.
Surgery isn't an exact science. Just like Puru - his left leg was totally normal after the rods removal surgery, but the right one was in pain for ~2 weeks.
A week ago I started training hard, every day, so let's see what that does. Already I ended up with severe right knee pain one day after training (I was limping), but it went away with ice and after a good night's sleep.
I also have trouble stretching. Pain level 3-5 if I try touching my toes with knees locked. I can't do a heel sit - there's ~3cm between my heels and the butt. Puru can.
After the surgery, I had no sensation in the left calf. That's been coming back slowly, but it's still at ~70% compared to the right calf.
I've also answered many other questions in a sort of "guest post" on Puru's diary Go check them out. You can compare our outcomes to some degree.
As for the folks criticizing how my subconscious feels about shorter people: tough luck. All I can do about it is be polite, respectful, egalitarian and friendly. I've never mistreated anyone, sorter or taller, on purpose. Or not taken them seriously because of some physical characteristic (because of terrible grammar - yes, I confess to that). What I'm saying is that I've become aware of how my subconscious reacts when it encounters others shorter than me. Read the summary of the book "Blink" for more on the topic of first impressions. This isn't something you can control, or even understand very well. You can be aware of it though, and this surgery made me very aware of how people perceive shorter people; and also of how people can and do consciously combat the heightism bias, as much as they can.
Fun fact: now that I'm taller, when I stand in front of a shorter friend, I spread my legs to stretch (they know I need to stretch), and also to become shorter than I normally am. It makes me feel more comfortable to not be much taller.
Future plans: schedule the rods removal surgery.
Thanks for the update! Very interesting. Hopefully the pain will go away.
I guess you're right about the subconscious feelings. I wish you the best!
Hi OYG
Thanks for sharing your experience with this community!! I am very sorry that you are having some problem in your knees. Hopefully they will get better soon.
Wish you the best of luck!
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