Just had a tinder date last night and this only reaffirmed my desire to get LL done.
We had good chemistry over text and she was definitely into my looks since we matched; she even told me "how tf are you single" over text.
Fast forward to date time and we grab lunch and everything is going well-- I'm being very social and charismatic and everything seems to be going fantastic.
Later that night, I message her to say that I had a fun time and was wondering if she'd like to go on another date. I get hit back with something along the lines of "I think we should just be friends." Idk, but my gut tells me that height had to be the deciding factor as all variables were under control / going fantastic beforehand.
I'm not even that short (5'7 lol) and she was probably 2 inches shorter.
This incident just re-affirmed my desire to get rid of this petty burden that even exists. The fact that I can be killing it in other aspects yet have this small thing be such a deciding factor hurts. I'm sure not all girls care about height but just the fact that it can be such a make-or-break factor in some instances is a nuisance in itself.
Apart from girls, the fact that it affects the way some people treat you sucks in itself too. I remember multiple staff glancing over me and treating me like a non-important customer as soon as I arrived and requested to make reservations.
Oh well, chin up and carry on, lol. Thanks for your ears, friends.
Would be more than happy with 2 inches to be honest. That would put me right at average @ 5'9
@10cmOnTibiaOrGTFO:
I mean, to each his own. I would like to get this done with either Paley/Roz so the chances of something happening terribly wrong are slim, assuming I keep up with my physical therapy and lengthen a safe amount on the femurs (2 inches, maybe 2.5 max if all is going well). It seems like the surgery has advanced so much where it is no longer as barbaric as it once used to be merely a decade ago where you would have people going to India to be bedridden for many months on end with an external fixator cage and legs littered with unsightly keloid scar wounds from the pin sites. Now, I can get it at world class facilities with highly experienced doctors, fully weight bear, and have it done internally, allowing me more mobility and flexibility while having a much speedier recovery time / return to normalcy.
With the new breakthrough of the Stryde nail, I'd realistically only be out for a half a year or so, and even then, I'd be fully weight bearing and could continue my work remotely and some daily activities.
I think making that leap from slightly under average but still short to plain old average (in my country) would be such a huge thing for me. I've been struggling with height for over 6 years now, it didn't just happen because of a tinder date lol.
@10cmOnTibiaOrGTFO:
I think we all know the probable answer to that, which is why we are all here on this forum.
Thanks for your input.
@Mule: Man, you make some fantastic points. Truth be told, I don't know 100% whether it was my height or not but I'm just assuming so given that I was under the impression that everything else was going well. I definitely don't think that getting the procedure done will make me immune to rejections but it would be so nice to not have to always resort to attributing them to height (either partially or completely)-- and I'm not just talking about romantic rejections here. Sure it would be nice to be tall, but I just want to be average in order to at least negate the possibility of height being a probable variable. I'd say that I'm fairly confident and have things going for me well in life but I just hate that tiny internal hesitation / fear of meeting someone new (romantically or platonically) and being worried that they will judge me for my height. I know that the probable cause is likely mindset but I know that this dysphoria is certainly solvable by physically removing it, so why not just eliminate the root cause, you know?
It's amazing to see fellow individuals like yourself who used to be in similar positions that I was in. I'm so happy to hear that you were able to get rid of the height factor!
If you don't mind, could you expand on how it has affected your like in other aspects from dating? Also, since you're 2 years post op, are your scars still visible, or do you think they'd be able to be completely invisible if laser scar removal was done?
@ghkid2019: You described my rationale perfectly 
@MeanGoal: I didn't post my height on the App. I do look taller in pictures, however.
@10cmOnTibiaOrGTFO:
Wanting to go from sub-15th percentile to 50th percentile is delusional, huh? What, do you think that height neurosis is not allowed at some magic height threshold and that anyone displaying it has mental issues? Gtfo man, there are people here on this sub who are even 5'10+ but live in places like Northern Europe where the average is 6'0+. There's no magic number for height dysphoria to disappear; yes, it's a derivative of body dysmorphia and is all in your head, but getting rid of it from the root cause can (and often times does) expel the dysphoria once and for all. Who the hell are you to come on this forum and call people pathetic losers just because they're at your dream height and are nervous about being at that height? And for the record, my career is going fantastic and I'm willing to bet that my body count is scores higher than yours if you really want to bring that up; so yeah, I'd be happy to be the same "loser" after LL, albeit an inch or two taller. To reiterate, I'm not getting LL for women lmfao. I'm getting it solely for myself. Regards.
@Mule:
Wow, thanks so much for the scar pictures. I've always been worried that they might turn into keloids but those look fantastic and almost non-existent! I'm assuming they'll return once the rods have been removed but I'm sure they'll dissipate just as quickly as they did. I just read your post describing your procedure about 2 years ago. Glad everything turned out well, my friend. Once again, congrats.
@Mule: Thanks Mule. I appreciate you reaching out and I'll definitely take you up on that offer. I sent you a PM!
@Mule: Thanks Mule. I appreciate you reaching out and I'll definitely take you up on that offer. I sent you a PM!
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