I am a 28 year old male. My life has changed dramatically these last 6 months to the point where I can get the surgery done overseas next year.
I realize that I wont be able to be as athletic as I once was but thats ok. I dont like the way I look, especially in pictures. I legit look like a midget. This is how I feel. I measured myself yesterday and I am 5'8. In this picture, I am actually wearing 2 inch lifts and I still look short.
Heres a pic for reference. http://imgur.com/a/EMjE7
Main reason for doing this? To feel more confident and hopefully attract more girls. However, maybe my height isnt the issue, maybe it is. This is where your feedback is important to me. Also, I would appreciate it if you refrain from making any derogatory remarks. It takes a lot to post a picture and ask for help from internet strangers.
This is all I ask.
Thank you guys.
If you are the one that isn't censored(on the pictured u attached) and u feel like a midget than you should seek psychological help.
Quote from: yyes on July 05, 2017, 04:54:36 PMI am a 28 year old male. My life has changed dramatically these last 6 months to the point where I can get the surgery done overseas next year.
I realize that I wont be able to be as athletic as I once was but thats ok. I dont like the way I look, especially in pictures. I legit look like a midget. This is how I feel. I measured myself yesterday and I am 5'8. In this picture, I am actually wearing 2 inch lifts and I still look short.
Heres a pic for reference. http://imgur.com/a/EMjE7
Main reason for doing this? To feel more confident and hopefully attract more girls. However, maybe my height isnt the issue, maybe it is. This is where your feedback is important to me. Also, I would appreciate it if you refrain from making any derogatory remarks. It takes a lot to post a picture and ask for help from internet strangers.
This is all I ask.
Thank you guys.
I'm going to throw my 2 cents into the mix here. 5'8 isn't tall, or that short. It may not even be average considering it's 1.5 inches below average... but lets face it, at that point you're just nitpicking at nothing. I highlighted parts of your comment that I feel reveal a lot. I don't know who you're comparing yourself too, but I can tell you that's almost never going to be the case. Even in this picture, which considering you're not even the shortest person, but among taller ones next the guy to your right, I legit struggle to see what the problem is. It's like you and I are living in different realities.
I feel like there's something else at work here. People here tend to hate hearing this, but go see a shrink first. Because as I highlighted in red, you seem to have a feeling it might not be height, and I think it's incredibly important to have all your doubts checked out first before even considering this surgery.
Quote from: Alu on July 05, 2017, 05:12:33 PMI'm going to throw my 2 cents into the mix here. 5'8 isn't tall, or that short. It may not even be average considering it's 1.5 inches below average... but lets face it, at that point you're just nitpicking at nothing. I highlighted parts of your comment that I feel reveal a lot. I don't know who you're comparing yourself too, but I can tell you that's almost never going to be the case. Even in this picture, which considering you're not even the shortest person, but among taller ones next the guy to your right, I legit struggle to see what the problem is. It's like you and I are living in different realities.
I feel like there's something else at work here. People here tend to hate hearing this, but go see a shrink first. Because as I highlighted in red, you seem to have a feeling it might not be height, and I think it's incredibly important to have all your doubts checked out first before even considering this surgery.
Quote from: YourSpaceBoyfriend on July 05, 2017, 05:12:18 PMIf you are the one that isn't censored(on the pictured u attached) and u feel like a midget than you should seek psychological help.
I just might. Like I said, I struggle with confidence and it partly has to do with women. Again, dont shoot me for being honest. But my mentality goes like this. The girls that I like, end up not liking me for one reason or another. The ones that do like me, I dont like and im not attracted to.
When this happens, I start analyzing myself. Maybe its my looks, maybe its my height, etc.
Why looks and height and not personality ? Well because I get told by everyone that I am easy to get along with, really cool, and smart. On top of that, compared to my peers im relatively successful. When you get told this, you obviously start looking for answers and start asking questions.
Am I going for models? Not even close. I am going for average women to slightly above average.
But lately, its not even about the women anymore. Its been a combination of getting woman's attention and being content with myself. On top of this, always looking to improve myself is at the top of the list.
Quote from: YourSpaceBoyfriend on July 05, 2017, 05:12:18 PMIf you are the one that isn't censored(on the pictured u attached) and u feel like a midget than you should seek psychological help.
Honesty without tact is cruelty.
Quote from: yyes on July 05, 2017, 05:24:23 PMI just might. Like I said, I struggle with confidence and it partly has to do with women. Again, dont shoot me for being honest. But my mentality goes like this. The girls that I like, end up not liking me for one reason or another. The ones that do like me, I dont like and im not attracted to.
When this happens, I start analyzing myself. Maybe its my looks, maybe its my height, etc.
Why looks and height and not personality ? Well because I get told by everyone that I am easy to get along with, really cool, and smart. On top of that, compared to my peers im relatively successful. When you get told this, you obviously start looking for answers and start asking questions.
Am I going for models? Not even close. I am going for average women to slightly above average.
But lately, its not even about the women anymore. Its been a combination of getting woman's attention and being content with myself. On top of this, always looking to improve myself is at the top of the list.
If you're not having luck with women now, you're not going to have luck with women because you're a couple inches taller. If dating is the major reason why you're considering this when you're being truly honest with yourself then you should reconsider it. Only you can answer this question. You say it's not about women but your entire posts are about women. Take some time to really think about it.
If you were in a relationship with a pretty girl that you really liked, would you still consider LL?
Quote from: yyes on July 05, 2017, 05:24:23 PMAgain, dont shoot me for being honest.
I don't. I just answered with honesty to your honesty.
You look completly normal on this picture. Maybe i should show picture of me(im 5'5) with my 5'10-6'6 friends then mby you will see a difference.
And don't think about going to shrink like it's some kind of punishment, talking always helps.
Quote from: biggerdreams on July 05, 2017, 05:50:36 PMHonesty without tact is cruelty.
If you're not having luck with women now, you're not going to have luck with women because you're a couple inches taller. If dating is the major reason why you're considering this when you're being truly honest with yourself then you should reconsider it. Only you can answer this question. You say it's not about women but your entire posts are about women. Take some time to really think about it.
If you were in a relationship with a pretty girl that you really liked, would you still consider LL?
Nope. When I was dating it would never cross my mind. It's not until I started to learn about attractiveness that I came to realize how big of a role height plays when trying to attract most women
Quote from: YourSpaceBoyfriend on July 05, 2017, 10:00:21 PMI don't. I just answered with honesty to your honesty.
You look completly normal on this picture. Maybe i should show picture of me(im 5'5) with my 5'10-6'6 friends then mby you will see a difference.
And don't think about going to shrink like it's some kind of punishment, talking always helps.
Thanks man. And yeah I see nothing wrong with talking to a shrink
Quote from: yyes on July 05, 2017, 10:33:32 PMNope. When I was dating it would never cross my mind. It's not until I started to learn about attractiveness that I came to realize how big of a role height plays when trying to attract most women
Do you think your dating life is going to magically change when you're a couple inches taller? It'll get slightly better, at best. Like I said earlier, if you're having issues now, you'll still have those issues later.
You don't look short in the picture you posted. Seriously, you don't. And that's coming from a guy who's been struggling with height neurosis for many years now.
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