it is often perceived that short women are not as discriminated or oppressed as short men. While I do admit that short men are treated poorly in society and are openly scrutinized by women because of their height. Short women face their own challengers. Short women problem is that people tend to not take short women seriously. Whenever a short woman asserts herself , she is often treated like a child having a temper tantrum. Short women are often ignored, dismissed. The one advantage that short women have is in dating men. And thats because of gender stereotypes that women are to be meek..weak..someone needing of protection. So men who want to feel like protectors seek out shorter women because they feel they need to be protected. Short women are not represented in the fashion industry or modelling industry. The standard of beauty still continues to be average to tall height.. symmetrical features and modest weight.
Speak for yourself. I don't want to fit in. I want to escape heightism.
Quote from: Sara123 on December 05, 2018, 03:44:16 PMEarlier this year I had an argument with my ex housemate. He was very rude to me, told me I’m just a little thing and he could make me disappear if he wanted. To be fair he was just very angry. It was a very heated argument, which came about because of my intention to have this operation. I told him I would have to leave the apartment we shared and could not renew the lease early next year. He wanted to know why, when I told him that I was going abroad to have this done, he told me I have serious issues and I don’t need to lengthen my legs. We had various arguments because he then left me on my own to pay the rent alone. I told him I was going next year but he then said “well if you’re going next year I’m leaving now” and just left me to pay all the bills alone for months. People have no idea how much stress the intention to have this operation has caused me. My mum and I are now not talking. We had a fall out over this operation. She sent me horrid messages saying I need psychiatric help not an operation. On top of that she told a lot of her friends and even got them to send me messages to try to change my mind. She was apparently crying to her friends saying she doesn’t want to see her only daughter ruining her life forever. She also has a son, my brother but I’m her only daughter.
I then had people sending me messages saying they see nothing wrong wit me. To be fair I’ve also told too many people and this whole year has been crazy for me. I just want a normal life. Why is life so hard for me.
When my housemate was threatening me and telling me I’m just a little thing he could make disappear, I felt horrible. I’m just a little over 5 feet 2 so I’m not really tiny but he was over 6 feet. He never hurt me but his threats when he was angry made me feel horrid and worthless.
I’ve also had a number of men in the past patronising me. Things like “you’re a clever girl”. It just feels like they are expecting me to be stupid or something. I’ve been praised by men just for doing everyday stuff. I think a lot of this stems from the fact that I’m a small and sweet woman. I’m sure they don’t mean any harm but it does feel patronising. In a relationship it’s nice but not in the wider world.
Now if I had longer legs, I could put on nice clothes and a get a sassy attitude at work with man who decides to patronise me again at work!! That’s another bonus, put some men back in their place!!
It is very sad how short people are mistreated. Call is a solution. But it's not the answer to overcoming heightism. It's sad how we are made a shame of ourselves. I'm only doing call to escape heightism.
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In my opinion the major contributor to prejudices likes lookism, heightism and beautyism ..is the media. Whehter it be in movies, music, videos... all we ever see are average to tall people. Superheroes are alwas extremely tall, handsome and musculuar. The leading characters for action movies are always tall people. And lets take a look at the modelling industry. I dont see any short models around. I find it so hypocritical when the media,,hollywood starts talking about diversity...or body acceptance but they never mention short height. As a short person I never paied attention to it. Until heightism started becoming a reality for me. We just blindly follow and watch whats in front of us. And dont realize that they are programming at an early age to be heightist. The message that comes across is to be successfulone has to be beautiful and smart..and have the total package. And people who are short.. unattractive do not deserve success, to be treated fairly and happiness. And everyone seems to be okay with it..even short people.
Use social media" Post information regarding height discriminations on facebook, youtube, instagram, tumblr, and other popular social media sites, bring up height awareness in chat rooms, like christian chat rooms, main chat rooms and secular chat rooms. Research 100 ways to advertise online to think of more ways on how to advertise in regards a social cause.
2.Use word of mouth. Tell friends and family about height discrimination, educated them. Tell professionals about height discrimination.
3.Organize yourself with like minded people. Find other like minded people who want to fight height prejudice and strategize on how to overcome this stigma. Have accountability partners.
4.Know your rights. Be educated on your legal rights. ANd learn about different methods to advocate legally through letter writing,, writing in forms of email, fax and registered mail. Keep all forms of written corresnpondence.
Hire a legal counsel. Hire a lawyer or a paralegal if you feel your human rights are violated.
Use differnt forms of legal writing if rights are being violated such as demand letter or cease and decease letter.
Offline ads: Put up flyers against height discrimination, in bullttin boards in libraries, coffee shops (ask first), Place flyers in peoples mailbox. Use billboard ads, radio ads, and magazine ads,
Hire a public relations firm to promote body diversity..and body acceptance ..place tv ads in local tv stations etc
Hire private investigator to gather evidence if you feel you are being discriminated.
Love yourself Know that your height does NOT define y
It doesn't fix the stigma of being short. It's just assimilating to the culture.
I'm doing cll to escape heightism. But if there was no heightism I wouldn't be doing it. But I'm still going to fight heightism before, and after com. Because it's an injustice. I never understand why humans can't get that we are all human beings. We all have different strengths and weaknesses. And we aren't suppose to be perfect. It's so simple. Treat people how you would want to be treated.
Heightism is such a prevalent prejudice its just so odd that its not exposed. its definitely something that is experienced but not talked about openly. i mean slowly I think people are talking about height discrimination online. But its just kept hidden for so long.
To be honest lots of celebrities are super short in real life. But in the media they portray them to be super tall. And the way they do that is through angles. Also lots of celebrities without make up aritsts, shoe lifts, stylist, plastic surgery.. or probably average or below average. But in the media they project an image that tall is beautiful and tall is accepting. And that contributes to height discrimination. I do agree that lookism does impact all women a lot more..even women of color. Society puts a lot of emphasis on women to stay youthful and to look good. Im glad that there are short women that has successed. But it doesnt mean that heightism isnt a systemic issue. The other day the president of USA has publicly deied a person a job because she was too short for the position. Just because there are short people that do make it..it doesnt mean a thousand more short people didnt. Its like saying okay there was one half black president in USA now racism isnt over. Which is not true at all. Racism is still a problem EVERYWHERE ..especially anti black racism. Does that mean that black people cant be successful Of course some black people have been successful. But there are a thousand more that hasnt. Like you said people judge us head to toe our body proportions, how we dress, if we smile, our symmetrical features etc..and thats how they treat us. Its sad that we are not just accepted for our looks and people look at our character. And then you said short people should not be models and that would be unacceptable. At one point they said the same thing about black people. And pluz size women. And now there are black models and plus size women. ..because a person has to push through the boundaries of social injustice. It sucks to be marginalized, discriminated etc It doesnt make people feel good. It makes life harder for someone. I dont know if people do or dont deserve. But it definitly is NOT a humane thing to do. One day my only hope that we can completely replace the social hierarchy based on physcial features and replace it based on compassion, understanding and humanity.
Being in pork is not a respectable career.
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