Pros and cons of keeping it secret?

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Quote from: berezoni on April 28, 2021, 10:46:30 AM
 She was supposed to be between 5 and 5'2. She had precocious puberty that went unnoticed. I am saving every penny for her to have 2 surgeries if she wants to do it in the future. We actually had the surgery scheduled in February, but it was canceled because the surgeon only wanted to use Stryde on her. I read a lot about the psychological effects of limb lenghthening surgery on kids. All of it is positive. Kids are resilient and recover quicker.

I plan to do this surgery at 17, what do you think? I'm really scared of the pain and complications. But I think if your daughter which is a girl, and only 12 can handle the pain then hmmm.

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I don't know of ANY societal expectations or pressures that are put upon women for being short.  As a matter of fact, women are praised for being short and petite.  For, females, it is a very desirable trait.  She won't face even 1% of the discrimination and hardships that short boys/ men face.  Not sure this is necessary for her to go through...and that's coming from someone who did this procedure.

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In my humble point of view they are just envying your dauguther becomin taller and more beautiful or those so-called kindly people ain't suffering from height dysphoria..
I've been persuaded out of LL for hundreds of times by tall guys over 180cm..They're always judgmental about my attempt to do LL and they're trying to preach me with examples like Xiaoping Deng,Changjiang Pan,Jack ma and so on..(I'm a Chinese boy).But I think they don't understand me.

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Quote from: Coeus on May 02, 2021, 04:20:02 PMIn my humble point of view they are just envying your dauguther becomin taller and more beautiful or those so-called kindly people ain't suffering from height dysphoria..
I've been persuaded out of LL for hundreds of times by tall guys over 180cm..They're always judgmental about my attempt to do LL and they're trying to preach me with examples like Xiaoping Deng,Changjiang Pan,Jack ma and so on..(I'm a Chinese boy).But I think they don't understand me.

I agree with you ..It is also a complete lack of empathy. Those people have no idea how being this short makes someone feel.

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Any type of cosmetic surgery is taboo, but as soon as it’s perceived as functional people immediately change their mind about the outcome.  That’s why I argue anyone doing this or any other cosmetic surgery should be open about it, but always spin it as a positive and functional thing.  Going around telling people you broke your femurs to be taller will never win you any hearts or minds, but admitting to people that you had leg or back problems and had “a surgery” to “fix” those “problems” will make you look a lot better.  It’s totally fked up, but it definitely works.

People are drawn to the grotesque, which is why circus freak shows thrived over the past centuries.  It’s why people hate serial killers but also want to watch their interviews and know all about them, it’s why everyone wants to find the Zodiac killer.  I won’t lie, this surgery for cosmetic-only purposes falls into the grotesque for most people.  People will mock you for it and yet also fixate on it.  Having a functional spinal fusion or bow leg correction is arguably as dangerous, but people don’t find it grotesque.  When you are grotesque, you are the carnie others can unload their own insecurities and pent up inhumanity upon.

So I strongly suggest being open about having surgery, but not about the purpose or method.  Say you have back problems or something.  Just as dangerous to fix, but it’s socially acceptable.

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I kept it secret for years until I told my now ex-gf (we were dating at the time) about 5 years post-op, she was literally like “whatever, that’s cool” and then never brought it up again during the entirety of our relationship lol. Honestly, would have been so much easier if I had just been more open with people at the beginning instead of feeling so embarrassed and ashamed of something so inconsequential. I definitely plan of disclosing to future partners and even close friends if the subject of height is ever broached.

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"Inconsequential", id say its a pretty big deal.

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Don't you have more important problems to worry about?