What life would be like if we weren't planning this

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I wish that I didn't obsess over this surgery because it's very impractical and I envy those who only care about building their savings for houses and cars.... as opposed to a life event that is so disruptive and difficult to obtain

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Quote from: dreamingtall on January 19, 2022, 08:59:07 PMI wish that I didn't obsess over this surgery because it's very impractical and I envy those who only care about building their savings for houses and cars.... as opposed to a life event that is so disruptive and difficult to obtain

I often wish I did not have this obsession as well, since my life works super well but I'm deeply unhappy so I want to do it no matter what .
You should see it as an achievement n not as a curse ; a 911 turbo porsche should make u happy , but if this surgery makes you happier ..what makes the porsche or the house more worth it ?
It's about priorities n we have this which is harder then lots of things ,but lot of people have their own struggles that we know 0 about so I try to focus on the goal n on a life without height dysphoria n that feeling is that stunning ,that it makes me deeply sad for not being there yet , but gives me a hope n belief that nothing else would give me .

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There's no point in worrying about how things could be if x was different. Just find a way to achieve all these goals: LL, buying a house, car, etc.

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What’s interesting for me is that I’ve had some level of height dysphoria since I was very young. It only got worse as I hit puberty and these negative thoughts were reinforced by my piers. When I came to this forum initially I was obsessed and constantly thought about the surgery and planning my recovery, how to save money for the surgery, how I’ll look afterwards, etc. But, at a certain point I had planned out as much as I could, I know when I will get the surgery, how I will save for it, how I’ll look, the risks, etc. Basically I learned all I could and have a solid plan. Now my height dysphoria is actually way better due to this light at the end of the tunnel. The confidence of knowing I will be taller makes me less attached to my current height. It’s a subtle mental shift that’s vastly improved my height dysphoria/ surgery obsession.