Quote from: RGKEY on September 10, 2014, 02:51:57 AMyou might disagree with me but she wasn't into you not for your physic but because you lacked of escalation man. many hot girls i dated, well exactly 4 lol, didn't think i was that attractive, before me they only dated tall buffed man, but i manage to get them and they fallen in love with me. This girl im sure if she is single she will be interested in you because you ditched her!! that os for sure, hot girls like her live for the attention and approval of men, and when they dont get that they go nuts! they go crazy!! and will start chasing you trust me haha girls that i dated before that were really hot, i asked them why were your ex boyfriends tall and handsome and they always told me that for the most part only tall and handsome men approach them, not little dudes like me lol and the little ones were usually creepy and s**t haha, so true!
for the most part hot girls get a lot of attention from guys and they reject most guys that give them the same s**t like everyone else. but paradoxically they can not live without tho attention, so when they find a guy who does not give a s**t about them like all dudes they flip and do all they can to get his attention.
Anyway good luck there bro. i have my own issues, sometimes i get too much in my head about my looks and i lose confidence and that s**t stops me a lot to do many things, i know it's all in my head but well i wont let that s**t control my life lol
You could be right, i know some girls act like you describe for sure, but every case and person is different so im not so sure :p I appreciate your points though bro! It makes me feel a bit more positive about the whole situation
For example when we just met and maybe saw each other once or twice in school, she would be flirty and focus more attention on those taller and better dressed guys, i wasnt trying to get her attention either to be fair since i assumed she was a bimbo and very superficial, but she kept calling me and talking to me, although without showing much sexual interest. It was only later she did a few things that could be considered flirting and i was a bit flirty back with her, but before i could really tell her outright that i wanted to date her, she ended up hooking up with a random dude i knew from school she just met.. the reason i found out about it is because she asked me if he was a nice guy, she wanted to know because he was on his way to her house. Only after that happened did i tell her that i was upset about that since i liked her, and she kind of thought i did but hoped we could just be friends. I eventually agreed to be her friend because i didnt want to lose her from my life at first and also because i knew i had higher potential in terms of looks compared to the guy she hooked up with.
And it worked a little but she kept taking me for granted and it was obvious i got less respect from her than other more popular guys when we where out, she was quite distant towards memost of the time when i met her in person with a few exceptions, she slept over at my house one time (she asked me if she could because she was feeling a bit down and wanted to hang out) we watched a movie but nothing happened because i didnt want to risk getting rejected again, maybe that was stupid. She was nice and flirty on the phone and complimented me but it was definitely "friendly" stuff and nothing sexual.
Eventually i was fed up with her inconsistent behaviour, the breaking point was when i invited her to a party because we hadnt seen each other for long and i knew she was going away for a month to another country with her BFF. She told me that she might be able to make it. She ended up calling me really late the evening of the party and telling me that she was a the train railway station and that she couldnt stay for the party but wanted to say hi for a few minutes. I was a bit disappointed but didnt make a big deal out of it and when i met her i asked why she couldnt stay, then she said she was going to sleep over at a friends house but didnt want to tell me who it was, eventually i realized she was going to sleep over at that guys house (the guy she hooked up with earlier) because he lives in the same district as i do, and she was going to take the train to that station.
After she knew that she couldnt hide it, she became a bit defensive and i tried to not show anger, but i was quite passive aggressive and when she tried to change subject i obliged but my attitude was arrogant at this point towards her and i acted like i didnt care, i was like: well go ahead take the train, i have other things to do, and i left to go back to the party. She knew she had been completely disrespectful towards me but she didnt dare to try to make it right even, but you could tell she was distressed because she knew she f**ked up.
After that i never called her on messaged her again, she tried to call me many many times but only after a bit over a month some time after she got back from the trip did i respond to her but i was very cold. I also knew she stopped seeing that other guy because she removed him from facebook. Im pretty sure it was her who removed him because guys usually dont bother with that, at least i dont, the previous girls ive slept with, i dont remove them from my facebook even if i stop seeing them, but occasionally they have done that to me :p
at this point she spent the next many months of trying to adulate me and make me forgive her, although she never wanted to discuss or even bring up the subject of what happened that evening, she tried to avoid that and only try to say flattering things and asking how i was doing and stuff, hoping i would forgive and forget about how she treated me before.
of course over this time i improved a lot of things about my appearance and most importantly my status and facebook pictures improved, as mentioned earlier the whole time when i spent time with her i only had like 1 or 2 photos and they where pretty bad, and she had very bad eye sight too and most of the time we met where in clubs, so she probably didnt have much of a physical attraction in the beginning..but i think for sure she started to find me attractive afterwards, and also probably mentally since she knew i was a good guy and was nice towards her and made her laugh all the time, but she had been disrespectful. Its obvious she had regret but was to much of a coward to bring up the subject and apologise. So her flattery had no effect on me. But she stopped calling me after i said something hurtful towards her, she probably thinks i dont care about her at all at this point. And she has a bit of an ego as well so even if she wanted to talk to me she would probably contain herself from doing it now.
Well, im sure she would find me very physically attractive if she saw the taller more muscular and better dressed version of me which i will soon become, but after all this time and negative experiences betweent us, and since first impressions are still important, im not sure if there is any possibility for us. I do know that i had some great moments with her, and her looks are completely ideal for me too..and i also like the fact that she talks a lot, so i dont have too. I write a lot on this forum, but in real life among people, i always prefer letting other people talk so i dont have to do it as much 
Sorry for the long post, but its a sad case and i felt the need to give you the whole picture now that i already brought it up. I dont want to clutter you diary with to many posts of my past social life lol
