Quote from: Uppland on November 09, 2014, 10:17:11 PMI can relate alot to what you wrote Taller but I don't think my insecurity runs as deep as yours. I took it very hard when I realized I wasn't growing anymore and yes it feels horrible to be much shorter than your dad it really does wreck havoc with your self-esteem. That doesn't mean there is something wrong with your brain, alot of people on here say we're crazy because supposedly the average height in english speaking countries is 5'10 so it has to be our problem.
I remember you wrote you sometimes go places where 188 CM seems barely average. It sounded strange but yesterday I saw what you meant: Me and dad were in Stockholm to see the premiere of a new movie and we had some time to kill which we did by walking around downtown (it's beautiful with the water and everything). Now my dad is not short he's around 187CM and while I'm bad at eye measurments and easily fooled by posture, the slope of the sidewalk, distance and the fact that he was carrying a heavy backpack but he still looked so small. You guys probably won't believe me but about a third of all the men were well above 190CM. I felt like a child, maybe 10-15 people out of hundreds were shorter than me that's when I knew I would never be tall where I live. I'm just hoping I can get to a point where I don't feel dwarfed in a crowd.
Sorry about all the text but I had to get that off my chest. Anyway what i meant to say is: it's okay to want to feel normal and to be proud of yourself. If you don't feel short don't do the operation it's not worth it to go from good to better but it may be a good decision if it helps to get rid of what feels like a heavy weight dragging you down every morning. If I were a decimeter taller I swear I wouldn't allow myself to be bitter. You're not crazy for wanting the surgery taller and when you get to point where you can finally accept yourself you'll be happy again. Everyone deserves that doesn't matter if you're 160CM or 190CM.
that's pushing it
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Quote from: Uppland on November 09, 2014, 10:17:11 PMI can relate alot to what you wrote Taller but I don't think my insecurity runs as deep as yours. I took it very hard when I realized I wasn't growing anymore and yes it feels horrible to be much shorter than your dad it really does wreck havoc with your self-esteem. That doesn't mean there is something wrong with your brain, alot of people on here say we're crazy because supposedly the average height in english speaking countries is 5'10 so it has to be our problem.
I remember you wrote you sometimes go places where 188 CM seems barely average. It sounded strange but yesterday I saw what you meant: Me and dad were in Stockholm to see the premiere of a new movie and we had some time to kill which we did by walking around downtown (it's beautiful with the water and everything). Now my dad is not short he's around 187CM and while I'm bad at eye measurments and easily fooled by posture, the slope of the sidewalk, distance and the fact that he was carrying a heavy backpack but he still looked so small. You guys probably won't believe me but about a third of all the men were well above 190CM. I felt like a child, maybe 10-15 people out of hundreds were shorter than me that's when I knew I would never be tall where I live. I'm just hoping I can get to a point where I don't feel dwarfed in a crowd.
Sorry about all the text but I had to get that off my chest. Anyway what i meant to say is: it's okay to want to feel normal and to be proud of yourself. If you don't feel short don't do the operation it's not worth it to go from good to better but it may be a good decision if it helps to get rid of what feels like a heavy weight dragging you down every morning. If I were a decimeter taller I swear I wouldn't allow myself to be bitter. You're not crazy for wanting the surgery taller and when you get to point where you can finally accept yourself you'll be happy again. Everyone deserves that doesn't matter if you're 160CM or 190CM.
that's pushing it
Thanks for your post Uppland. Stockholm is definitely a beautiful city indeed, especially in the evening!
I don't think that we experience any real discrimination at 179CM though. I just feel so far from the height I dreamed of being and often feel small, kind of like what you stated.
Have you talked with your friends or family about your feelings? I eventually did so after years of keeping it in and it proved very therapeutic, morsoe than the dumb psychologist I saw once.
This forum is also a great place to talk about these kinds of feelings relating to height. You're right, sometimes it feels great to get pent up frustrations off your chest and share them with others.
Thanks for your post Uppland. Stockholm is definitely a beautiful city indeed, especially in the evening!
I don't think that we experience any real discrimination at 179CM though. I just feel so far from the height I dreamed of being and often feel small, kind of like what you stated.
Have you talked with your friends or family about your feelings? I eventually did so after years of keeping it in and it proved very therapeutic, morsoe than the dumb psychologist I saw once.
This forum is also a great place to talk about these kinds of feelings relating to height. You're right, sometimes it feels great to get pent up frustrations off your chest and share them with others.
Quote from: Uppland on November 09, 2014, 10:17:11 PMI can relate alot to what you wrote Taller but I don't think my insecurity runs as deep as yours. I took it very hard when I realized I wasn't growing anymore and yes it feels horrible to be much shorter than your dad it really does wreck havoc with your self-esteem. That doesn't mean there is something wrong with your brain, alot of people on here say we're crazy because supposedly the average height in english speaking countries is 5'10 so it has to be our problem.
I remember you wrote you sometimes go places where 188 CM seems barely average. It sounded strange but yesterday I saw what you meant: Me and dad were in Stockholm to see the premiere of a new movie and we had some time to kill which we did by walking around downtown (it's beautiful with the water and everything). Now my dad is not short he's around 187CM and while I'm bad at eye measurments and easily fooled by posture, the slope of the sidewalk, distance and the fact that he was carrying a heavy backpack but he still looked so small. You guys probably won't believe me but about a third of all the men were well above 190CM. I felt like a child, maybe 10-15 people out of hundreds were shorter than me that's when I knew I would never be tall where I live. I'm just hoping I can get to a point where I don't feel dwarfed in a crowd.
Sorry about all the text but I had to get that off my chest. Anyway what i meant to say is: it's okay to want to feel normal and to be proud of yourself. If you don't feel short don't do the operation it's not worth it to go from good to better but it may be a good decision if it helps to get rid of what feels like a heavy weight dragging you down every morning. If I were a decimeter taller I swear I wouldn't allow myself to be bitter. You're not crazy for wanting the surgery taller and when you get to point where you can finally accept yourself you'll be happy again. Everyone deserves that doesn't matter if you're 160CM or 190CM.
Ok, I'll be visiting Stockholm soon then, need to check if this is true or if you're just delusional.
Quote from: Uppland on November 09, 2014, 10:17:11 PMI can relate alot to what you wrote Taller but I don't think my insecurity runs as deep as yours. I took it very hard when I realized I wasn't growing anymore and yes it feels horrible to be much shorter than your dad it really does wreck havoc with your self-esteem. That doesn't mean there is something wrong with your brain, alot of people on here say we're crazy because supposedly the average height in english speaking countries is 5'10 so it has to be our problem.
I remember you wrote you sometimes go places where 188 CM seems barely average. It sounded strange but yesterday I saw what you meant: Me and dad were in Stockholm to see the premiere of a new movie and we had some time to kill which we did by walking around downtown (it's beautiful with the water and everything). Now my dad is not short he's around 187CM and while I'm bad at eye measurments and easily fooled by posture, the slope of the sidewalk, distance and the fact that he was carrying a heavy backpack but he still looked so small. You guys probably won't believe me but about a third of all the men were well above 190CM. I felt like a child, maybe 10-15 people out of hundreds were shorter than me that's when I knew I would never be tall where I live. I'm just hoping I can get to a point where I don't feel dwarfed in a crowd.
Sorry about all the text but I had to get that off my chest. Anyway what i meant to say is: it's okay to want to feel normal and to be proud of yourself. If you don't feel short don't do the operation it's not worth it to go from good to better but it may be a good decision if it helps to get rid of what feels like a heavy weight dragging you down every morning. If I were a decimeter taller I swear I wouldn't allow myself to be bitter. You're not crazy for wanting the surgery taller and when you get to point where you can finally accept yourself you'll be happy again. Everyone deserves that doesn't matter if you're 160CM or 190CM.
Ok, I'll be visiting Stockholm soon then, need to check if this is true or if you're just delusional.
Quote from: Taller on November 09, 2014, 10:42:52 PMThanks for your post Uppland. Stockholm is definitely a beautiful city indeed, especially in the evening!
I don't think that we experience any real discrimination at 179CM though. I just feel so far from the height I dreamed of being and often feel small, kind of like what you stated.
Have you talked with your friends or family about your feelings? I eventually did so after years of keeping it in and it proved very therapeutic, morsoe than the dumb psychologist I saw once.
This forum is also a great place to talk about these kinds of feelings relating to height. You're right, sometimes it feels great to get pent up frustrations off your chest and share them with others.
spot on
Quote from: Taller on November 09, 2014, 10:42:52 PMThanks for your post Uppland. Stockholm is definitely a beautiful city indeed, especially in the evening!
I don't think that we experience any real discrimination at 179CM though. I just feel so far from the height I dreamed of being and often feel small, kind of like what you stated.
Have you talked with your friends or family about your feelings? I eventually did so after years of keeping it in and it proved very therapeutic, morsoe than the dumb psychologist I saw once.
This forum is also a great place to talk about these kinds of feelings relating to height. You're right, sometimes it feels great to get pent up frustrations off your chest and share them with others.
spot on
Quote from: 123 on November 09, 2014, 10:47:23 PMOk, I'll be visiting Stockholm soon then, need to check if this is true or if you're just delusional.
Go downtown on a saturday night. I'd think it was a coincidence but the next day we were at a large store and most men there we're the same height as dad or taller and I only saw two people my height or shorter, I wish I was joking.
Really bad at estimating others height though but I know dad is 187 albeit with lousy posture.
Quote from: 123 on November 09, 2014, 10:47:23 PMOk, I'll be visiting Stockholm soon then, need to check if this is true or if you're just delusional.
Go downtown on a saturday night. I'd think it was a coincidence but the next day we were at a large store and most men there we're the same height as dad or taller and I only saw two people my height or shorter, I wish I was joking.
Really bad at estimating others height though but I know dad is 187 albeit with lousy posture.
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