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Oh dear lmao.... great response.
Good to see a smile on your face Unicorn, you look amazing for 44/45! After hearing your vivid horror stories I would have expected something resembling the female version of Lo Pan.
It's inspring to see you looking so happy.
WELL YOU ASKED FOR IT
The emotional toll leg lengthening will have on you and your loved ones is drastically underestimated and unspoken.
One of the things you have to consider before doing LL is the kind of ignorance and discrimination that will hit you from all directions and from where you least expect. NOBODY can even begin to understand your predicament until they have walked in your shoes and lived the perils of your lengthening process. Anything shy of that actual experience does not entitle anyone to judge you.
It's always hunky dory when everything pans out exactly as planned especially if you’ve managed to do it on the down low. For me, that's the best-case scenario.
However, if things don’t go according to plan, then hell hath no fury. In these 4 years, I think I have cut out 95% of my friends just because I can no longer cope with their silent judgements and occasional outbursts of hurtful remarks. They might not even be that insensitive, it might just be me being hypersensitive.
I was chatting with 2 friends yesterday. Funnily enough, these are close enough friends with whom I had shared my journey and agony. They had visited me physically when I was completely broken, so you'd think that they would be slightly more empathetic.
At some stage in our chat, I was explaining how much pain I was suffering since they had asked me how I was feeling. And my friend interrupted me, "but you asked for this, so why are you complaining so much?"
It dawned on me then, that I've actually heard this comment so many times now in the last 4 years; that I had made the decision to undertake this risky cosmetic procedure, hence, I deserve to suffer if things go awry. It’s not like I’m an innocent victim of cancer…
The line between deserving and innocent is so blurred. One can argue that a person who smokes and contracts lung cancer is ‘deserving’ to suffer? The way, we deserve to suffer if our cosmetic procedure goes wrong? It can’t be that simplistic.
And this ‘ex-friend’ adds that if I were so miserable, I should just go kill myself. That’s when I had a mental shutdown. My system couldn’t handle further verbal assaults. It's hard enough to not think about all the things that I've lost, the life I could have had, to be constantly in pain and unsure of what the future holds for me. It's too much for one brain to handle especially if you don't have a strong emotional support system around you.
Some friends even compare their height against mine and claim that they’re shorter than my starting height and yet, have zero urge to lengthen their legs. How's that even a valid argument? We resort to the desperate measure of breaking our legs because we suffered from feeling short our entire lives irregardless of our starting height, be it 150cm or 180cm. We did this to purge our inner demons. Others might be more conscious about their weight while we’re obsessed about being ‘vertically challenged’. How does one even begin to compare if one neurosis is more noble than the next?
My friend just wanted me to admit that I had made a mistake to undergo leg lengthening but haven’t I been punished enough, as it is? I will maintain that it is not a mistake to find courage to realize your dream. It is also not a mistake to do your homework and research to the best of your ability to make an informed decision. However, it was my mistake for ignoring all the red flags and choosing Guichet. That I can admit. The rest is happenstance.
So, all I’m just saying is, you’ll be opening pandora’s box when you choose to break your legs. Don’t expect most people to understand it, condone it and be sympathetic. If anything, many will be secretly rooting for you to fail so that they have a true cautionary tale to spin. It’s always easier to be smug; and yet, never truly have the balls to do what we crazy lengtheners did. So if you ever need a safe emotional refuge, seek it amongst those who've walked in your shoes and don't expect anything more from those who haven't. It's not a reflection of you, it's general apathy. And if nothing else, it reveals the true colours of everyone around you.
For you LLers, we had a dream, we took a chance and we went for it. It’s a lot more than I can say for the rest who're quick to judge, and too cowardly to do anything else. For that, I can truly say F*** U and F*** Off!
Go back to your glass houses.
Quote from: Batu on June 15, 2020, 03:16:37 PMOh dear lmao.... great response.
Good to see a smile on your face Unicorn, you look amazing for 44/45! After hearing your vivid horror stories I would have expected something resembling the female version of Lo Pan.
It's inspring to see you looking so happy.
Ok, I thought Lo Pan was a chinese noodle dish or perhaps the wife of Taipan. I learnt something new today 
Quote from: kats20 on June 12, 2020, 10:18:43 AMHas your surgeon given you an idea of your recovery and rehabilitation timeline?
Hi Kats20,
I didn't realize until I read through the operative reports yesterday that they had to ream my femur canal to 14mm again. So, it's gonna be 2 weeks to heal from the surgical wound sites, then 6 months of rehab to build strength and hopefully be able to bear weight.
For now, I'm not allowed to walk on the leg until the bone graft shows proper consolidation. So I truly hope I would be in a better place by christmas?
Fingers crossed! Really!
Quote from: ru on June 09, 2020, 04:52:28 PMdr Debiparsad discharges patients 2 days after surgery to make it cheaper. dr Paley keeps them for 5 days .
But is Dr. Debiparsad making it cheaper for his patients? Or is he pocketing the cost savings?
For me, that's the main ethical issue because freshly operated patients need proper monitoring. It's not even a luxury, it's pure necessity.
Quote from: Arrogance on June 11, 2020, 03:59:41 PMNo Unicorn. Dying now wouldn't be dignified. It would be sad. Especially after all you've been through. It would be like throwing the towel after 12 boxing rounds.
Yes, but one shouldn't have to box 12 rounds in the first place. We were promised fast track 'boxing'
Quote from: seriouslyinjured on June 12, 2020, 12:43:47 PMGuichet is an absolute butcher, he should lose his medical licence and should be jailed for what hes done to you. i hope other people learn from this and not use him in the future. i hope to hear you writing one day you recover physically and mentally 100 percent and it felt like it was a bad dream. keep fighting and hang in there. i know how it feels not to know if you will ever heal and be in limbo, when i had non union and my screws were breaking. i have almost healed myself now thanks to the help of further surgeries, once my nails are taken out and my damaged glutes are repaired that will be the last of my complications over, keep fighting you will get there and then you can move forward with your life, there is a light at the end of the tunnel, you are in survival mode now but as soon as you feel progression bit by bit you will get stronger. please keep us all up to date with whats going on
I hear you, non-union with screws breaking and damaged glutes are part of a snowball effect when things go wrong.
A lot of people going into leg lengthening underestimate how much non-union can fk up their lives because it's not something one can predict/prevent on the onset. And after, there's little one can actively do to speed up or control their bone consolidation rate. You can't will your bones to fuse. It's pure nail-biting waiting.
An analogy to this non-union lottery is altitude sickness. You can't tell from the get-go if you'll suffer from acute mountain sickness until you're halfway up the mountain. And the grisly result is pulmonary or cerebral edema. It's kinda ironic to drown when you're actually on top of a mountain.
And it doesn't matter how fit or strong you are. It's part of your genetic makeup.
Hence, it's an important risk factor to take into account because it can be a serious impediment to your life, like it is to mine.
Quote from: Unicorn888 on June 15, 2020, 12:34:11 AM 
This picture is better for the Fundraising
Quote from: Arrogance on June 15, 2020, 08:36:08 PMThis picture is better for the Fundraising
Thanks, done and done! Any ideas you guys have is most welcomed. My payment holidays run out end of this month, and thereafter, it's literally hand-to-mouth. I'd be totally screwed if it were leg-to-mouth.
Also, if you think I can be of service to anyone with questions about leg lengthening via live video, I'm always happy to lend a leg.
I've got 4 years of leg up... ok no more leg puns, promise.
Quote from: seriouslyinjured on June 10, 2020, 09:47:00 PMI really feel for you for what you been through. as i have been butchered and had to have several correction surgeries after. you have had such a rough road and probably the longest road to recovery out of all of us, i really hope you will have a full recovery now, with quick progression, i hope you can sue the doctor. we must always keep active on the forum so people are constantly reminded about the names of the doctors that butcher us, so everyone will always know these are the scum that just care about profit margin and not their patients
By who? and what happened exactly friend?
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